"A troubled international marriage unable to get a divorce, with the wife being extorted for one million dolloar" has been a hot topic on Chinese Internet searches in the past week. Because of the difference of languages, locales and lifestyles, a paragraph of originally melting transnational love eventually went to pair of legal proceedings, not only be asked for the huge break-up fee of 1 million Yuan by the other side, the court of tortuous and complicated cognizance also makes the Chinese girl exhausted - both mentally and physically. In the wake of the incident, international marriage is once again in the spotlight.
"Chinese husband + Russian wife = perfect combination". In May 2015, a sino-russian marriage "advertisement" published in Russian daily caused heated discussion in Chinese and Russian society. The Chinese men mentioned in the article "hardworking housekeeping" and Russian women "cheerful and generous" have become a group label with great spreading force. Many russians also believe that the marriage between Russia and China is indeed a perfect match. In the eyes of many Russian girls married to Chinese people, Chinese husbands take care of their families, have a healthy lifestyle, do housework and take marriage seriously, which is rare among Russian men. And many Chinese husbands who have married Russian wives say Russian women do better than Chinese women in many ways. The advantages of a Russian wife are independence, freedom for her husband, high level of education, beauty and hard work. In recent years, the exchanges between China and Russia at the national and social levels have deepened, and the two ethnic groups have met each other on the road of mutual understanding. In suifenhe, heihe and other port cities with hot border trade between China and Russia, cross-border marriage between China and Russia has been very common. The heilongjiang daily previously reported that russia-china cross-border marriages accounted for a quarter of all foreign marriages in the region between 2002 and 2012, according to the region's civil registry. However, a large number of good impression does not mean that the success rate of international marriage is also high. As China becomes more international, international marriages are on the rise. In neighboring South Korea and Japan, for example, the percentage of grooms and brides from China has been high. Japan's ministry of health, labor and welfare statistics show that marriages between the two countries have topped the list of Japanese marriages involving foreigners since the 1990s, with tens of thousands of couples tying the knot each year in recent years, qianjiang evening news reported. In South Korea, the situation is similar, with figures released by the Korea statistics department in April 2013 showing that Chinese men accounted for the largest percentage of marriages between Korean women and foreign men (26 percent). However, the reality is often not as beautiful as the imagination. For example, the divorce rate in the marriage between China and Japan has been very high. International intermarriage is not only about the new romantic happiness of marriage but also about understanding each other. The success of russia-china transnational marriage does not depend on the low material requirements of Russian women, nor is it far from the lack of Russian men, but the deep mutual understanding between Russian women and Chinese men. Hong Kong's ifeng.com reported in April that a 22-year-old Russian beauty had married a Chinese miner. "In the world of love, I think love is the most important, as long as we are willing to work hard, I believe we will be able to buy a house and a car as soon as possible." Her Chinese husband resigned from his previous job. After the formal wedding in her hometown, the couple planned to start a business in Russia. In February 2016, the northeast news network also reported the story of naga, a Russian girl who had been married to China for five years. After she married her husband in shenyang and became a "foreign daughter-in-law", najia not only learned the authentic northeast Chinese mandarin, but also loved to eat and could cook northeast dishes. The most important thing is to adapt to the filial piety and affection of Chinese culture. In addition to getting along with Chinese parents, playing mahjong will deliberately lose to coax in-laws happy. "My parents in China love their children by buying imported food from my hometown. They love us and I should learn to respect them," she said. Na jia said that learning Chinese food well for Chinese parents to eat, more like a Chinese daughter-in-law. But that doesn't mean every international marriage is perfect. In fact "happy families are alike, but unhappy family is unhappy in its own way", the key to marriage is to find the people, no matter what kind of marriage, the premise should be congenial temper, two people appreciate each other, love each other, so that two people can have a problem to solve problems, share the joys and sorrows,, grow old together.
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Understanding the features of the target cultures has a very considerable influence on the best way to generate business. Chinese civilization is the prominment "representative" of the Eastern Asian cultures, which are extremely peculiar and totally distinct from Western civilizations. To understand its language, you can easily find and hire a professional translation agency (like the ACE CHINESE TRANSLATION), but to understand the cultural takes a lot more efforts and real contacts.
There was a "gas station fable" that goes like this: In a Nowhere city in China, Mr. Zhang San opened a gas station and made a lot of money. Seeing this, Ms. Li Si and Wang Wu also opened gas stations one after another, wishing to grab a share of this profit market. In the West, however, if Tom runs a gas station and makes a lot of money, Jerry would sell water next to it, Polly runs a restaurant, and then, more and more people come - a township finally comes into being... In the domestic business circle and product circle, everyone is playing the "Hard" mode, from the hundred regimens war, to a pile of "top conference", it seems that every business form once appears to play, there will be numerous groups of "followers" to join the competition...... Silicon valley's peers are saying it's just Chinese. Some time ago, the orange dream class invited professor xie xiaoyun, deputy dean of school of management of zhejiang university, to give a lecture on "human nature and system in organizations". There were many highlights, which happened to have something to do with this topic, namely, the influence of traditional Chinese culture on today's business behaviors. In summary, there are three significant differences: First, the trust system is different. The east is a circle structure (relatives, acquaintances, strangers), and the more familiar people they trust, while the west is rule-based. Secondly, the order of common sense and law is that the east pretends to reason, then to reason, and finally to speak, while the west is just the opposite. (extension: there is also a more interesting saying that the east is "thinking" in the sense of law, "do things" in the sense of law) Third, the petrol station fable, the opening story, plays out in the same way in the business world. It's interesting, but why? In my opinion, these three points share the same logic core -- the difference between farming civilization and hunting civilization. In the case of farming, people stick to the land and change very slowly from generation to generation. The people they meet every day are the circle structure, and the chances of meeting the clan members (relatives) are far more than the villagers (acquaintances) and far more than the strangers. In this context, people who are close to each other can only be trusted more. The closer they are to the core circle, the more interests they bind, and the easier it is to find the common goal. Naturally, doing things by "feeling", that is, the efficiency of values is obviously higher than rules (principles and laws), but this only applies to small and beautiful teams. This point, I believe that entrepreneurs with the expansion of the team, things from talk to talk, also can feel the obvious decline in efficiency. Every day in hunting civilization, civilization will run into a new environment, new stranger, may be the enemy may also be a partner in the future, the whole society has experienced a long-term training, everyone is aware of its exact person, to believe that the opposite is inferior to believe that a rule, we have a consensus may be a little bit low, low efficiency is the basis of the value returned, but the consensus is the way of cooperation. Similarly, in the early stage of starting a business together, the team relies on common sense, while large companies cooperate with each other with more common sense. China is in a relatively stable farming civilization, see the same people every day, to do the same things, listen to the old man, one thousand, people more and more tend to avoid uncertainty, tend to mimic first, and then "innovation", so, fables in a gas station and an industry constantly repeat: homogeneity competition, price wars, burn, merge... The merger of didi kuaidi, Meituan and dianping, ctrip and qunar, and... Western culture, on the other hand, values the initiative to meet challenges and seek changes, and thus develops such characteristics as rebellion, tolerance of failure, unwillingness to copy and encouragement of innovation. Imitation or innovation are both survival strategies evolved in a specific internal environment. There is no right or wrong, but the long-term impact is a bit like the comparison between the continental civilization and the Marine civilization. The continental civilization is a relatively closed system, which will gradually increase the entropy and generally get old. In the early years of human beings, when transportation and communication were inconvenient, every internal environment could be protected from external influences. The high efficiency of farming enabled China to take the lead in the stage. However, in the era when internal environment and external environment were integrated, the advantages of an open system that was better at innovation, rule establishment and consensus building gradually emerged. Technologies are evolving fast, even in language / voice recognition. This is the next article we are going to write about. Stay tuned...
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